“In poverty and other misfortunes of life, true friends are a sure refuge. The young they keep out of mischief; to the old they are a comfort and aid in their weakness, and those in the prime of life they incite to noble deeds.” – Aristotle
On this week’s episode, Devon and I are discussing how friendships shape our lives and can either help or hurt our health because after all, we’re a product of our social circle. Our past friends have helped create who we are today and our current friends will help develop us into the person that we will become tomorrow.
There are so many ways that our friends can influence us including:
- Teach you new skills
- Inspire you
- Possibly introduce you to your future partner
- Help advance your career
- Give you a reality check
- Create a support system around you
Find Your Community
So, going into 2018, what kind of life do you want to lead and who do you think can help aid you with that mission? What type of community do you want to belong to?
The best way to become the person you aim to be is to change your environment including the people that you spend the most time with. That doesn’t mean you have to stop being friends with someone close to you, but you might want to re-evaluate that friendship and see if that person is either helping you or preventing you from reaching your goals.
In this episode, we’ll go over:
- The benefits of having friends
- How friends impact your mental and physical health
- Signs your friendship is toxic
- Where to find new people to spend time with
- How to cultivate a friendship with someone new
“If you choose people who are just like you now, you’re not going to change. You’re going to stay exactly that way you are if you don’t change your environment and the people around you.” – Devon and Rob Dionne
The Health Benefits of Friendship
“If you have a strong social network, it can extend your life by 50% more than just exercising and quitting smoking.” – Devon Dionne
It has been scientifically proven that friendships and support groups can dramatically boost both our physical and mental health:
- Extends your life
- Helps deal with chronic stress
- Improves recovery from illness such as cancer
- Affects your biology in the moment as far as blood pressure, immune system, and hormones
“People with social support have fewer cardiovascular and immune problems as well as lower levels of the stress hormone, cortisol.” – Dr. Tasha Howe
Do You Have Toxic Friends?
If you want to live a healthier life, you should surround yourself with people who also have that same mission or are already living a healthy life that can inspire you.
Take time to evaluate your current friends or community atmosphere and ask yourself these questions to determine if they’re benefiting you and the life you want to create:
- Do I feel better after spending time with them?
- Am I being me or am I trying to pretend to be something I’m not to make them happy?
- Do I feel secure or do I feel like I have to watch what I say and what I do?
- Can I be honest with them or am I afraid of confrontation?
- How do they react when I’m honest with them or try to be open about something?
- Are they supportive and treat me with respect?
- Can I trust them?
- Do they inspire me to be the best version of myself?
- What values are important to me? What other areas of my life do I want to improve based on that?
“If your friendship feels good, then it’s probably good. If you feel anxiety and judgement or other negative feelings when you’re around them, then you should probably reconsider the friendship.” – Rob Dionne
Where to Attract New, Healthier Friends
To meet new people, you can put yourself in situations that allow you to socialize and get to know other people. You want to seek people who are genuinely and mutually interested in what you both are doing:
- Attend a fitness class
- Go to a dog park with your dog
- Discover new people with apps like Meetup
- Join a fun, unique event like a Hash Beer Run
When it comes to hashing, you don’t have to drink a beer at every stop. The people you will meet are those who love to be active while also having a good time out with friends and new people. The main point is to go to a bar, have a drink, socialize, and then run on to the next bar. You don’t have to drink at every bar or even at all to attend a beer run event.
How to Approach Someone New
Friendship is a lot about being vulnerable and open to others, but focus on the new people you meet and not on yourself. What you should do is ask them questions and be interested in them.
Equally, a person you want to befriend is someone who’s going to take interest in you and ask you about your passions, struggles, or lifestyle and and goals.
What kind of questions should you ask them? Instead of asking them what they do, maybe ask them about how they know someone in common such as a party host, what movies they like or about sports. Ask them about their interests and what they love to do.
Avoid asking someone new about their career right when you meet them. After all, a person’s job isn’t the only thing that defines them, so it’s a good idea to avoid questions about what they do because it’s probably not what they’re passionate about.
Allow Your Relationships To Grow
Treat both your old and new friends the way you want to be treated. You can’t depend on others to make the first move, so regularly reach out to them. Be open to hanging out with your friends when they ask you to spend time with them and offer later dates if you can’t make it at the earliest date.
When you meet someone new and want to make the relationship grow, keep these tips in mind:
- Don’t be too clingy, but give others space.
- Don’t get caught up if it takes them awhile to get back to you.
- Don’t take it too personally when someone doesn’t answer back and just give them the benefit of the doubt
- It’s no big deal if they’re too busy to hang out now or if they end up completely ignoring you.
- Keep searching for your health and wellness community until you make a real connection with someone.
“Lifestyle is organized by behavior. How do you organize your life and your time for what’s important to you? How can you change your environment to be healthier?” – Devon Dionne
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What You’ll Hear on This Episode
00:00 Open Sky Fitness Introduction
1:15 Opening comments with Rob and Devon
1:45 Check out last week’s show – OSF 181 – Craig Cooper: Discover Your Tribe – Staying Fit For Life
4:20 Check out our brand new Throwback Thursday Podcast series!
6:00 Join our Open Sky Fitness Podcast group
7:00 Be a part of our next 8 Week Sky Fit Challenge on January 22, 2018 to kick off the New Year!
11:10 The new format of our podcast and what you should expect from us.
12:40 The importance of friends and your health
18:00 How friends who are different from you can help you change.
23:00 The impact of our friends and their friends
25:00 How your health and relationship with food can vary depending on who you spend time with.
29:30 Why your town’s environment and social media online community can also impact your friends and health.
30:50 The benefits of having friends.
33:00 Why family has no affect on our longevity like friends do.
33:50 Studies that have shown that cancer patients in support groups got more out of chemotherapy than those not in support groups.
35:00 Why it’s so good for our physical and mental health to open up to people about what we’re experiencing and spend time with good friends.
40:00 The difference between people who are afraid of being alone and those who are lonely.
42:00 How to find a good community of friends with our busy schedules.
47:20 What to do if you realize you need to change your environment? How can you attract other friends?
51:30 How do you go from small talk to actually making friends.
57:15 How to find time to develop these new friendships.
1:07:30 Closing comments with Rob and Devon
1:11:10 Open Sky Fitness Closing
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- Contact Rob and Devon to apply for One-On-One Coaching Sessions
- Learn more about our new sponsor – ButcherBox
- Check out last week’s episode OSF 181 – Craig Cooper: Discover Your Tribe – Staying Fit For Life
- Learn more about our guest for January 8th – Dave Asprey, Founder and CEO of Bulletproof
- Find out more about Motivational Speaker, Jim Rohn
- Read “You’re The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With”
- Find out more about the work of Dr. James Fowler
- Download the Meetup App
- Go on a Hash Beer Run
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