Can you love yourself? Because when you love you, you can love others. – Briar Flicker-Grossman
Practicing psychotherapist, psychoanalyst, and life coach plus the author of the upcoming book, Love, Laugh, Be: How I Wound Up With Nine Amazing Kids (When I Only Knew About Three) And Other Extraordinary True Stories That Matter. Briar Flicker-Grossman, joins us to share why you have to work for your happiness through self-love, explores the Failure To Thrive Syndrome, and discusses importance of exploring your internal appetite, thoughts, and emotions before acting on something.
This was an especially amazing interview because both Devon and I know Briar personally and Devon has even had psychotherapy sessions with her. We really loved sharing Briar’s message on the show and we know you will too PLUS she is even giving some free gifts to you, our listener!
Free Gifts From Briar
- A complimentary copy of two chapters from her upcoming book
- Your Satisfaction/Hunger Assessment
In this episode, we also discuss:
- How to actually recognize, connect, and explore all of your feelings with psychotherapy and on your own.
- Self-sabotage at its core through judgment, comparison, and competition.
- How to sit and connect with yourself with meditation without rules and limitations.
- Creating habits as long as you’re in touch with your emotional, physical, and mental hunger.
- Uncovering who you want to be when you “grow up.”
- The importance of open communication with your intimate partner.
- How to start focusing on yourself now, what you want, and how to share that with a partner who will support you
There’s now greater and greater recognition of how important it is to sit down and get present to your breath and your mind. I know it can be horrifying to sit there alone with yourself and the horror is that you think you’re going to disintegrate, there’s too much anger, or you’re going to get scared because in the quiet we might start to hear the stuff we’ve shoved down that we didn’t want to be aware of. However, if you can feel those things then you get to heal those things. – Briar Flicker-Grossman
About Briar Flicker-Grossman
Briar is a licensed therapist having received her Master’s degree in Clinical Social Work from New York University, and Doctorate in Psychoanalysis from the Psychoanalytic Center of California.
She is a certified affiliate instructor of The Bradley Method for childbirth, and received training in general coaching through the two year Team, Management, and Leadership program at Landmark Education. Currently she is also Assistant Faculty at the Psychoanalytic Center of California teaching post graduate students and doctoral candidates.
Dr. Briar Flicker-Grossman is available to speak with groups and organizations interested in self-growth and development, and overcoming what may seem impossible… like cancer. Whether you are looking for a therapist, coach, childbirth class, or group for your teen, above all, her mission is to get to know you and help you get to know yourself and live your life with meaning and power.
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1:15 Opening comments with Rob and Devon
2:00 Rob and Devon’s conscious decision to take time during Thanksgiving for themselves to connect as a family on vacation.
6:40 What to expect in today’s interview with Briar.
10:00 Introduction to Brier Flicker-Grossman
11:15 What the word, “appetite” can mean in our lives outside of food.
13:00 Why we are all born psychosomatic, what that’s a good thing and what that means for our wellbeing.
16:00 Exploring taboo appetites from sex to money.
20:00 The importance of exploring your internal appetite, thoughts, and emotions before acting on something.
24:00 How to actually recognize, connect, and explore all of your feelings with psychotherapy and on your own.
25:50 Why affirmations are more of a band-aid than an actual tool for self-improvement.
32:00 Self-sabotage at its core through judgment, comparison, and competition.
35:00 How to sit and connect with yourself with meditation without rules and limitations.
40:00 Creating habits as long as you’re in touch with your emotional, physical, and mental hunger.
44:00 Exploring Failure To Thrive Syndrome and why love is as important as food.
49:00 The human condition of wanting so hard to just be right instead of just “being.”
51:30 A child’s version of what it means to be a grown-up by being totally independent when it’s actually about recognizing the importance of connection, love, and help.
58:00 Why we choose our partners and maybe, later on, marry them.
1:00:00 Being reasonable vs. unreasonable in our relationships.
1:06:00 Uncovering who you want to be when you “grow up.”
1:08:30 The importance of open communication with your intimate partner.
1:17:00 How to start focusing on yourself now, what you want, and how to share that with a partner who will support you.
1:22:00 Get to know yourself and your appetite now with Briar at drbriar.com/openskyfitness
1:24:00 Closing comments with Rob and Devon
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Thanks for listening/reading Episode 268 – Self Love: Why We Have To Work For Our Own Happiness with Briar Flicker-Grossman! We hope you have gained more knowledge on how to be a healthier you.